Contemporary Art

40 Days of Dating

The story of life according to House’s Dr. James Wilson is fairly simple: Boy meets girl. Boy gets stupid. Boy and girl live stupidly ever after.

Not quite.

While boys are known to get stupid on occasion, the story of life isn’t a simple or straightforward as most of us would like. (That and I did warn you: #DoNotFallInLove)

Love is a central theme in humanity across time and cultures. It’s one of the main topics in music, film, novels, poetry, and art. But what exactly is it, and why do we all approach it so differently? How does it affect us so deeply that sane people have gone mad over it?

Take Jessica Walsh and Timothy Goodman for example, two human beings who are every bit as real as you and I, enter 40 Days of Dating.

The dating life in New York City can grow tiresome and wearing. Tim is afraid of commitment, often dating many girls at once, and he’s losing sight of what a healthy relationship means. Jessica is a hopeless romantic, jumping into relationships too quickly, always looking to find “the one.”

So here is the premise:

What do you do when you’re tired of the prospect of dating? Two good friends with opposite relationship problems found themselves single at the same time. As an experiment, they dated for 40 days.

And here are The Rules:

Simple, right? Ah, one can hope.

It’s been said that it takes 40 days to change a bad habit. In an attempt to explore and hopefully overcome their fears and inadequacies, Tim and Jessica will go through the motions of a relationship for the next 40 days: the commitment, time, companionship, joys and frustrations. Can they help each other, or will they fall into their same habits? Will they damage their friendship? What if they fall in love?

While  Jessica and Timothy’s 40 Days of Dating experiment reminds me a bit of Marina Abramovic and Uwe Laysiepen throughout their tumultuous career as performance artists, I am interested to see this interactive take on a 21st century relationship and how it unfolds. The daily questionnaire and and the detailed documentation – while sometimes painfully vulnerable –  is an insightful, refreshing, and over-all amusing look into what it actually takes to attempt  a meaningful relationship with  another human being.

New posts are added daily from July 10, 2013 – August 18, 2013.

24 July 2013 || UPDATE: It’s day 16 now, and I thought for a second there that they wouldn’t make it through. #FaithInLoveRestored #YesToSecondChances Go Tim! Go Jess! So far, I’m totally appreciating Tim when he says Jess is crazy, and it it is really turning him on.